How Likeable are You?

One of the most important keys to living a happy, healthy and fulfilling life is your ability to build meaningful relationships. While there are many factors that influence the relationships you have with others, being a likable person ranks near the top of the list. Likable people are those who do the little things to connect with people.

The Importance of Being Likable

All the great teachers of personal achievement from Napoleon Hill to Anthony Robbins have talked about the importance of creating a likable personality. Dale Carnegie's famous book How to Win Friends and Influence People was one of the best books I have read on the subject.

Generally speaking, people who have a likable personality enjoy greater success both personally and professionally. The logic is simple; people are subconsciously drawn to people who are likable.

Regardless of your career path, you can improve your brand and increase your value to the market by becoming a more likable person.

Evaluate Yourself

So, being honest with yourself, on a scale of 1-10, how likable are you? If your friends and business colleagues or your spouse and children were to rank your likability on a scale of 1-10, what would they say?

Answer these questions honestly to identify the areas where you can improve:


  • When speaking with other people, are you genuinely engaged and interested in what they have to say?
  • Does your smile communicate an authentic interest in the other person?
  • When people are speaking, are you patient? Do you let them finish before responding?
  • Will you get in the back seat of the car so your friend can sit in the front seat?
  • Do you remember people's names?
  • Do you accept responsibility when you are wrong?
  • Do you say please when asking people to do something for you, even if they are being paid to do it?
  • Do you offer your sincere appreciation to those who have done something to help you, even if it's within their job description?
  • Are you friendly in your e-mails?
  • Are you complimentary of others when they are deserving of one?
  • Do you encourage others when given the opportunity?
  • When having dinner at a friend's home, w